It’s always been tough having trust issues in a relationship, although sometimes it may turn out to be innocent but soon enough it’ll eventually destroy a relationship. Worse comes to worst, when one person realizes there’s nothing they can do to be trusted, they end up leaving. Imagine loving someone and giving them all you can to the point of dedicating your whole life only to find out that there’s just about nothing you can do to make them trust you.

For some girls and guys maybe, it takes one betrayal of trust to believe that all men/women are the same. We’ll be second guessing everything our girlfriend/boyfriend would do or say. We’d come to the “It’s hard to completely open up again, cos i’m worried you might cheat on me and i’ll only get my heart broken again.” scenario and who wants that, right? Why not realize that by never trusting our partner in the first place, would let them feel compelled of betrayal? We have to admit that everyone on this earth is not out to attack your trust in relationships. While we’re at it, not all men or women are pigs and not all men or women are after one thing. Generalizing like this will only mean that you’ll never be happy in a relationship. 

Every cheater gets a clean slate, it’s a hard one but you have to prove them you’re worth the trust. That’s the only way to give your relationship a fighting chance. Your partner is not like any of the other men or women that have let you down. It’s definitely difficult to not let those suspicious thoughts into your head, but you must not let them take hold of you. 

“The only thing permanent in this world is change.” People do. Cheaters are no different. The reasons the cheater gives for their past infidelity can help determine if they really want to change or if they might do it again. I’ve never been proud of cheating. Well once, but it didn’t turn out well. Being in a relationship for 5 years, made it easy for me to cheat. I’ve been coping with down times in my previous relationships by seeking outside excitement and disregarding the feelings of what my partner might feel afterwards. But that doesnt stop me from making this relationship, different. 

“Once a cheater, always a cheater” isnt necessarily true. Forgiveness and a new coming together are possible. If you don’t think things can work, heads up kid and just see which way the train is heading.